Category: Blogging

Want to Guest Post?

My latest depression is bringing up lots of “what do I want to do with my life” questions for me which puts my blogging on shaky ground. To keep you company while I’m annoying myself with my inner questions, I’m loading up a bunch of Joshua’s posts from Jackbooted Liberal that I’ve been meaning to share with you anyway.

And this makes it a good time to ask for guest posts! I’ve only had one other guest post here, but I’d love to have more.

Guest posting is good for:

  • Bloggers who are looking to reach out to a new audience
  • Bloggers who want to write about something different from what they post on their regular blog
  • Someone without their own blog audience who nevertheless has something to say
  • Anyone who wants to help me out by filling up my editorial calendar without having to write posts myself.

If you want to guest post, it’s probably best that you’re already a regular reader, and if you’re a regular reader you probably already know what kinds of posts would fit in here. But just in case, here’s what I’m looking for:

  • Counter/Culture – Burning Man culture, feminism, advertising critiques, polyamory… anything that is critical of or in opposition to our dominant culture.
  • Parenting – I’ll consider anything parenting or kid-related.
  • Radical Self-Acceptance – if you want to write something on fat acceptance, I ask you to submit it to GLORIFY. Mental health acceptance is welcome here, as well as other topics of accepting things we’re not normally encouraged to.
  • Simple-Eco-Happy – environmentalism, nature, the simple life, happy joy stuff. I haven’t written much in this category lately, so I’d be happy to publish some.
  • Homesteading – this is the category I’m least likely to want to publish because a lot of the Jackbooted Liberal posts I’m queueing up are homesteading topics. But if you’ve got something awesome, I’ll consider it.

Your guest post must be original material by you and owned by you, not previously published online, and you agree not to publish it elsewhere for at least 30 days. You can include a bio, which can include a photo and links to your websites, social media profiles, etc.

If you have any questions or want to bounce an idea off me before you write it up, email me to talk about it or go ahead and mail me your submission at erosissa@gmail.com.

Looking forward to it!

Tiny screens on our eyeballs, now, please?

A couple of weeks ago I bought a tablet. It’s a Samsung Galaxy Note 10.1 and I truly adore it. It’s like all the good stuff about a phone and all the good stuff about a laptop rolled into one beautiful package. This weekend I bought a MiFi device which means I can connect my tablet to the internet anytime from basically anywhere. I am plugged in.

I resisted the advance of cell phone technology for a long time. I held on to the candy bar style phone forever. I stubbornly stayed on a prepaid plan.

When Joshua first got a smartphone, a Palm Treo circa 2006, I didn’t get the appeal. Every time I tried to do something on it I got so frustrated at the tiny screen and tiny keys.

Besides, did I really need to access my email all the time?

Then one day I accidentally a smartphone.

Joshua and I had combined our financial lives so I could just be on his account, and I got a slightly older phone so it was really cheap, and well, what the hell?

I got an Android phone, but this switch for me was in post-iPhone era, and geez the difference from Joshua’s first smartphone was HUGE.

I turned out to absolutely love the whole thing of smartphones. I regretted not having jumped in sooner, because I really took to it, using my phone to its full capabilities.

But you do get mentally locked into a trajectory. When that first older model phone died, I had to get something latest-and-greatest. And now I have a tablet. And MiFi. And well… I am rather plugged in in a way that I wasn’t 5 years ago and the way some of my friends aren’t today perhaps because they’ve avoided the siren call of the smartphone longer than I did. Joshua and I have started to joke that we’re ready to have the Internet jacked into our heads now. Tiny screens on our eyeballs, now, please?

The things I do with my tech are numerous. I use my phone for phone calls, email, texting, chatting, web browsing, blog maintaining, social media, record keeping, note taking, appointment setting, and photo editing, and as a dictionary, calendar, recipe box, shopping list, phone book, notebook, camera, video camera, clock, alarm clock, radio, calculator, flashlight, and game console.

I used to fret about how much time I spent online. I have a friend who is currently taking a social media hiatus, and I completely understand where she’s coming from. There are times in my life where I’ve felt uneasy about my relationship with phone/computer technology and especially social media.

But I think I’m over that. For one thing, I consider “online” my job. I get paid to blog and to use social media. That’s awesome.

And also, I have simply embraced that this is where I am right now. I love the tech. It’s working for me. It’s integrated into my life in a way that is really enjoyable and feels like it enhances rather than detracts.

Nothing about social media concerns me. In fact, I drink up every detail. The pace excites me, the different platforms intrigue me, the new social patterns fit with me, and I am feeling comfortably at home.

I said to Joshua the other day that when it comes to writing down my job title somewhere, I feel the urge to put “writer” because that sounds familiar. But it’s not really accurate. Writing is only 20% (if that) of what’s going on. The rest of it is social media, marketing, SEO, design, networking, etc. I put down “blogger” as my title instead, because that more accurately captures everything that I’m focused on.

My technological toys are a huge part of making all those details happen. I got the MiFi so I can use my tablet to write while I’m out at a park with Dylan. I do lots of blog maintenance from my phone. I do social media from all my devices!

You can take all this as a peek at my thinking about technology, my blogging, and where my head’s at these days. Or, just as accurately, you could say that this was just one long-winded way to say… I love my new tablet! Squeeee!

Survey Results

Back at the beginning of November I asked you to fill out a little reader survey I put together. Let’s take a look at what you said!

Some of the questions were a bit routine.
  • How long have you been reading LoveLiveGrow? 42% of you have been reading here for 3 months or less (hi there!). 17% for more than 2 years (woohoo!)
  • How do you usually access LoveLiveGrow? RSS Readers and bookmarks were the big winners at 42% each.
  • 35% of you also have a blog of your own.

My favorite part was seeing what topics you like most and least. I write about so many things! Sometimes I wonder if I should pare down my topics, and this survey was part of me figuring that out.

Just averaging up the scores, here’s what you’re most interested in using the one to five scale of most fascinating to most boring:

  • Fat Acceptance
  • Mental Health
  • Polyamory
  • Relationships, Body Modification (tied)
  • Homesteading
  • Parenting
  • Food, Dylan (tied)
  • The Environment
  • Depression
  • Ad Critiques
  • Chickens
  • Pigs
  • Breastfeeding
  • Sheep, Ducks (tied)
  • Burning Man
  • Book Reviews
  • Cloth Diapers
  • Gardening
Breastfeeding and cloth diapers fall near the bottom, and that doesn’t surprise me. I won’t be having much more to say about those topics as Dylan gets older, and I never did really attract a parent-specific readership. Book reviews are near the bottom which doesn’t surprise me, either, but those pay the bills and are here to stay. I will always try to space them out so they don’t take over.
Looks like the chickens won the barnyard popularity contest, followed by pigs, and then sheep and ducks tying for last. While homesteading rated fairly highly, gardening is all the way at the bottom. To that I have to say… yeah, I agree. Gardening bores me, too!
Looking at specific ratings instead of averages, fat acceptance was the only topic to get zero votes for “boring”. On the other end, cloth diapers won the boring votes by far, with Burning Man also boring a large number of people.
For fascinating votes, polyamory got the most, followed closely by homesteading, fat acceptance, parenting, and relationships. Book reviews got the fewest fascinating votes.
I asked you to tell me specifically what you want to see more of and less of. Let’s just say those comments were all over the map. There’s no pleasing every one! But my biggest take-away message was that you guys like most of the topics, can scroll past the ones you don’t, and are very, very sweet readers to have. I love you guys! Thank you so much for filling out my survey!
Let me leave you with two ideas:
One, if you ever want to talk to me privately, there’s always a Contact tab up there on the menu bar under the header image. There’s a form there, or my email address is there, and I’d always love to hear from you, survey or no.
Two, I would love to host more guest posts on LoveLiveGrow. If there’s something you’d like to see here, consider writing it yourself! Especially on the topics of homesteading, parenting, and physical or mental self-acceptance, I’d be so happy to see more voices here. Let me know if you have something in mind!

NaBlo Wrap Up

Bzzzzzzzz! Time’s up! National Blog Posting Month (NaBloPoMo) is finished.

This is the 3rd year in a row I’ve done NaBlo and the 3rd year I’ve posted every single day in November. I win!

In 2010 my favorite NaBlo posts were Plastic Grocery Bags – Do You Mean It? and Heating Isn’t A Challenge.

Last year’s November brought Loving My Body and Because It’s My Body, the two posts that kicked off my commitment to fat acceptance writing, as well as Strong Relationships Can Wait, one of my posts comparing parenting to polyamory.

And as for 2012, did you catch all 3o posts? Some highlights:

I ran out of steam a bit here at the end. I had planned to have the reader survey results ready to report to you. But, alas, you’ll have to wait. I’m going to take a tiny blog break, and I’ll be back with you next week!

Enjoy your weekend!

Reminder to Answer Survey

National Blog Posting Month (NaBloPoMo) will be wrapping up pretty soon. Posting! Every! Day! I love the breakneck pace, and I hope you’ve enjoyed reading along.

Do you remember the very first post of the month where I posted a little reader survey for you to fill out? Did you fill it out?

On the last day of this month I’ll be wrapping up NaBloPoMo by telling you some of the results of that survey. If you’d like your answers included in the data, go fill it out!

Dropping F-Bombs on Your Immaturity and Rudeness

I’ve gotten a couple of criticisms of my use of the word fuck on this blog. Apparently some people are so bothered by the word fuck that they get distracted from whatever the message of the post is. And then they want to tell me about it.

If I say something truly offensive on this blog I hope someone calls me on it. If I write something that is hateful to someone or a group of someones or that dismisses their experiences or belittles their lives, I hope someone brings it up. If I write things that support harmful power structures, I hope someone helps me see what I’ve done.

But the word fuck isn’t any of those things.

In the past 3 months, I’ve written the word fuck 9 times in a blog post.

  • Three times it was a synonym for “really, really, really” as in, “food is fucking yummy.”
  • Twice it was to be angrily dismissive of something, as in, “fuck flattering”.
  • Three times it was just a general exclamation, as in, “fuck yeah”.
  • And once was in the name of my Alchemy theme camp, Fucking Awesome.

It turns out fuck is a really versatile word! I’m kind of amazed I only counted 9 times in 3 months. Maybe I should start using it more often!

If you complain to me about my use of the word fuck, here’s what I think about you:

You’re immature. “F-Bombs”? Really? You’re too damaged by the very idea of the letters f u c and k strung together to write out the word fuck? So delicate! I don’t know how you landed on my blog, but maybe you should go here instead. I dive into serious topics on this blog, including oppression, depression, and life and death. If you’re going to continue reading here, I’m gonna need you to step up.

You’re derailing. It’s petty to bring up my word choice if the topic of the blog post is important. If I’ve said something powerful, something interesting, something emotional, something vital, and you come in to pick on my adjectives, you are taking away from the topic of the post and centering the discussion on something trivial.

You’re rude. I finally figured out what bothers me most about this criticism: You’re picking on the way I talk. I’m not using the word fuck to shock you or to present a certain image. It’s just a normal everyday word in my vocabulary. I have a Southern accent; I use rural Midwestern colloquialisms; and I use the word fuck. You coming into my space, into my conversations, to pick on my vocabulary is just rude.

So, you know, fuck off.

It’s Time For NaBloPoMo Again!

{If you’re an RSS subscriber, have you switched your feed over yet? Remember, you should be following http://lovelivegrow.com/feed/ so you don’t miss a beat.}

 

If you’ve been around LoveLiveGrow for awhile, you may remember that I do National Blog Posting Month (NaBloPoMo) every November. That means I will make a post every single day this month. Every. Single. Day. Some posts will be long, some will be short, some will be just a photo, but I will pst something every day in November. 30 posts is what I usually make in 3 months, so it’s a breakneck pace. Starting now!

To help get me in my groove, I have a few questions I’d love to ask you readers. Got a moment to fill out a survey for me?

Thanks! You people rock!

Alert! RSS Changes – Keep Reading!

If you subscribe to LoveLiveGrow through RSS or email, FeedBurner has been providing that service. I’ve been hearing that FeedBurner is about to disappear as a service, so I am switching to FeedBlitz instead.

What does that mean for you?

Email

If you subscribe by email, nothing changes. I have switched you over to the new service behind the scenes. The emails might look different, but everything should basically continue on like usual.

RSS

If you subscribe by RSS, you need to update the address you’re subscribed to. If you are currently subscribed to http://feeds.feedburner.com/LoveLiveGrow, you will need to switch that to http://lovelivegrow.com/feed.

Ask For Help

If you aren’t sure what to do, don’t know how to switch the feed in your reader, or have ANY other questions about this, please ask me in the comments here.  I don’t want to type out a bunch of instructions if y’all already know what you’re doing, but I also want to make sure you all get switched over, so DO ASK if you need help.

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Who Is Listening? Who Am I Writing For?

I love writing publicly, which I can easily tell by the fact that as soon as I discovered online writing (LiveJournal, circa: back-in-the-day) I almost entirely stopped my private journalling and have been thinking out loud on the internet ever since. I get a HUGE satisfaction from having an audience, from getting comments, from seeing my stats, etc.

“Lifestyle” bloggers, the sort of niche-less catchall category into which I fall, are the ones I see mocked most often (well, there’s the scrapers, but I don’t even count those). We’ve got big egos, I hear. We just like the sounds of our own voices. We think we’re awesomesauce. Well, yeah. I agree with all that. I DO love the sound of my own voice, and I DO love my own writing. I blogged for years with none-to-few comments. I love knowing there’s an audience out there, but I don’t require a ton of feedback. I do, in fact, just love talking about myself.

Many of the things I write are advice, which is a certain kind of writing. It’s a kind that must, by definition, involve a receiver. Someone must be being advised. I definitely appreciate it when someone enjoys my advice or finds value in it or makes changes based on it.

But another awesome thing happens as well. Since I like my writing, and I like my ideas (obvs!), and I work so hard to get my ideas down into manageable chunks, I am able to give myself advice.

Because, you see, I’m not always the same person from day to day. My moods change. My priorities shift. Especially as a person with depression, I can forget things that are really important when I get lost in Everything Sucks Land.

Just this past couple of weeks, I’ve had a really hard time with Dylan and with sleep. He’s been nursing almost constantly through the night. I was tired. On good days, tired is okay. On depressed days, tired turns me into cranky, bitchy Issa, which is not a great combo with a sweet baby who just wants to be close.

Fortunately, I had just written the post Good News and Bad News About Childhood Stages, and it was fresh in my mind. I’m able to tag back to that advice in my mind and take my own word for it that this stage will be over before I know it.

I have other bloggers and writing I look to for advice, as well. There’s a yahoo group I belong to that really improves my parenting. Ariadne at Authentic Parenting writes amazing posts that are just what I need.

And it’s also just really nice to have this own record of my own thoughts so I can be there for myself when I need to be reminded of what I think matters.

No Nursing Manners for Us, Thanks on BlogHer Today

Syndicated on BlogHer.com

In case you missed it the first time, my post No Nursing Manners For Us, Thanks has been syndicated by BlogHer and appears there today.

The last time BlogHer syndicated a post of mine, it was my controversial post Parenting Isn’t Hard.

While I hope that people enjoy my post this time around, I also hope it generates less anger my direction! Check it out if you haven’t already.

Syndicated on BlogHer.com

In case you missed it the first time, my post No Nursing Manners For Us, Thanks has been syndicated by BlogHer and appears there today.

The last time BlogHer syndicated a post of mine, it was my controversial post Parenting Isn’t Hard.

While I hope that people enjoy my post this time around, I also hope it generates less anger my direction! Check it out if you haven’t already.