Positive Affirmations Series:
- Why It’s Okay For You To Use Positive Affirmations
- What Are Positive Affirmations?
- How To Find Your Personal Positive Affirmations
- Add Depth to Your Positive Affirmations
- Supercharge Your Positive Affirmations
- Get Aggressive With Your Positive Affirmations
Supercharge Your Positive Affirmations
If you’ve come along with me this far, you’ve accepted that you can do positive affirmations. You’ve figured out what they are and discovered some that are personal to you. You’ve developed your affirmations into deeper thoughts that really speak to you.
Now what are you going to do with them?
You may be trying out your positive affirmations throughout the day when you notice yourself having a negative thought. But I’m going to give you some ideas for approaching them a little more intentionally.
You’ll feel a lot of resistance to doing these, but you need to give them a try and give them a chance to work for you. That resistance is not your friend.
Record, record, record.
If you aren’t already, you need to get your positive affirmations down on paper.
Your expanded affirmations especially are longer, harder to remember, and harder to access when you need them.
You’ll want to record them someway that makes it easy for you to read them whenever you can.
Perhaps you will keep a journal with your positive thoughts. Throw away any pages where you wrote the negative ones! Perhaps you will write your positive words on notecards and stick them in your wallet or purse. Maybe you’ll use post-it notes or an app on your phone.
The recording method is up to you. What’s important is that you get these thoughts out of your mind so you can still access them when your mind is giving you troubles.
Use a Mirror
Some of the negative thoughts you have about yourself are things that were directly spoken to you. Maybe your parents said negative things about you. Maybe you’ve had a boss who spoke down to you about your abilities. Perhaps you’ve had romantic partners who undermined you with negative judgments.
Since someone said the negative things right to your face, challenge that directly by speaking your positive affirmations right to your face.
Stand in front of your mirror and say your affirmations while looking yourself in the eye. Hold that eye contact. Mean what you say. Put a gentle or encouraging expression on your face. Be nice to that person in the mirror.
To help you remember, make this part of your daily routine. When you’re dressing in the morning or brushing your teeth at night, use that mirror time to tell yourself what you want to hear.
Pump Yourself Up
Have you noticed that when you try to say positive things to yourself you sound kind of timid? Positive affirmations are unfamiliar phrases that can be awkward to say out loud. This leads us to a shy, hesitant tone of voice.
When you’re talking to yourself negatively, you are probably passionate about it. You say, “God, I fucking suck! What is my problem?!”
Get passionate about your positive affirmations, too. Say them out loud. Say them loud. Raise the pitch of your voice. Dance or wiggle around a bit while you say them. Jut out your chin or pump your fist in the air.
Think about how you would talk if you were on stage trying to motivate a crowd. Don’t put any less energy into helping yourself.
Feel It In Your Body
As you speak your positive affirmations, try to draw them into your physical sensations of yourself.
Take a big breath. In and out. In and out.
Feel yourself rooted to the place where you are standing, sitting, or lying.
Whatever the quality you are focusing on – confidence, happiness, security – try to feel it throughout your whole body. Feel your happy fingers – give them a wiggle. Feel your confident posture. Draw security into your belly.
Notice what areas of your body are harder to see in positive terms. You might find new ways to phrase your affirmations based on where this is difficult for you. “I am happy from my head to my toes.” “Confidence spreads through me to all corners of my being.”
Hear From Someone Else
If you have a someone you can trust with these big feelings, have them say your affirmations to you.
Perhaps you have a partner, a friend, or a therapist who you would be comfortable hearing from. Let them know the affirmations you have in mind, and ask them to say them to you.
Look them in the eye. Have them say your affirmations enough times to move past any initial awkwardness and get comfortable.
These are methods that help me out with my positive affirmations. You will probably develop different methods.
What other techniques are working for you?
What other ways can you think of to supercharge your positive affirmations?
Read the next post in this series: Get Aggressive With Your Positive Affirmations
Special note: This Positive Affirmation series is a mental health topic. I am writing about it because positive affirmations have been highly useful for me. While I write very forcefully about them, you are the only one in charge of your mental health treatment options. If this isn’t for you, chuck it and move on. Only you know what’s right for you.
Book Recommendation: The Four Agreements (affiliate link) was one of the first books I can remember that helped me see myself and the world in a more positive way. What other tools have led you to more positive thoughts?