If you had to pick one word to describe your parenting, what would it be?
The word you think of probably isn’t what you had in mind when you started parenting. It might be a word like stressful or rushed or resentful.
If your children were to describe you in one word, what do you think it would be?
For a real moment of truth – ask them.
If you had to pick one word to describe what you WANT from your parenting relationship, what would it be? What do you wish you were like when you relate to your kids? How do you wish you felt as you went through your day with them? What word describes what you hoped parenting would be like?
Ask your kids what one word they’d like to see describe your relationship.
Choosing one word allows you to have a real focus. You don’t get lost in a jumble of expectations.
Think about the space between your current word and your focus word. What do you need to get from here to there?
Try to let go of your fear and frustration about not being exactly the parent you want to be. No one is!
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Your word is not a goal. It’s not something you’re failing to achieve. It will never be something that you arrive at and then never look back.
Rather, this word is a mood, a feeling, a sensation.
Your word is an idea and an inspiration.
Today might look like one word and tomorrow like another. Any day where your values shine through is a good day. Any day you and your kids find a moment that is rewarding for both of you is a good day.
Please share your words that describe your parenting! Share the good words and bad, the embarrassing or inspiring, the ones that are true, and the ones you wish were true. Let’s hear the words that shape your thoughts, your days, and your future. Tell me in the comments here, or tweet it to me
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