Add Depth to Your Positive Affirmations

Positive Affirmation Series:

  1. Why It’s Okay For You To Use Positive Affirmations
  2. What Are Positive Affirmations?
  3. How To Find Your Personal Positive Affirmations
  4. Add Depth to Your Positive Affirmations
  5. Supercharge Your Positive Affirmations
  6. Get Aggressive With Your Positive Affirmations
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Add Depth to Your Positive Affirmations

Did you do the work from the last post of finding your own positive affirmations?

Maybe you’ve been running around saying, “I’m a good person! I’m so happy! I’m awesome!” feeling like a dork.

You could probably use a little dorkiness. You really are awesome, and it’s not silly to say so to yourself. Maybe you could even use some running around with a spring in your step.

Let’s look at two ways to take your positive affirmations beyond “I’m happy.” You want positive affirmations that ring true, bring depth to your positive thoughts, and that feel intensely personal.

Expand Your Affirmations

In the last couple of posts we’ve talked about making your positive affirmations short and to the point. It’s great to start out that way because you want to be able to remember them and use them anywhere and any time. In the beginning you kind of need to beat yourself over the head. Take that, thoughts!

A next step is to expand on them.

Think back to your negative thoughts. They start with something short, like, “I’m such a failure.” But your mind will begin to branch out from there, expanding on the idea and making it seem huge, detailed, and true.

We need to bring that kind of detail into our positive thoughts.

Here’s an exercise. Choose one of your negative thoughts. Perhaps the one that gives you the most trouble.

I’ll choose “I can’t do anything right”.

Write it down. Now just dump onto the page everything else that comes to mind about this thought. For me, it might sound like this:

I can’t do anything right. I’m a shitty mother, mean to Dylan, yell too much, can’t fix dinner on time, shitty cook, house is never clean, really disorganized, carpet is dirty, dishes are dirty, behind on blogging, I suck at blogging, I never spend time with Joshua, how come everyone else’s houses are clean, what’s my problem, how come I can’t play more games with Dylan.

You can keep writing as long as you have negative thoughts to dump on the page. I’m going to quit there before you know too much about my inner thoughts!

Now take a minute to group them together in a way that makes sense. Then come up with an opposite collection of positive thoughts. It’s okay to break out your complex sentences here, and add in examples if you can. For example, I might come up with something like this:

I’m a great parent. I’m really sweet to Dylan, and we cuddle a lot. I play a lot of games with him, and we have so much fun together.

Or something like this:

My house is pretty well organized. I know where everything is, and I keep everything pretty clean. My house is a peaceful, pleasant place to live in. I love it!

In another session at another time, work on another negative thought. Expand on it and come up with an expanded positive version. Do this with as many negative thoughts as you need help with.

Deepen Your Affirmations

In addition to expanding and grouping your positive affirmations, you can play with language to deepen your affirmations.

Something like, “I am confident,” will apply generally to a lot of people. But how can you make it apply specifically to you?

One way is to look at new words. Use a thesaurus to explore the idea. Other words related to confident are brave, secure, and having strong convictions. Perhaps one of those ideas resonates more deeply with you. Your affirmation of “I am confident” could turn into “I am secure in myself and my strong convictions.”

Other words related to happy are cheerful, contented, and delightful. Your affirmation of “I am happy” could become “I am content with my life and full of cheer,” if those words speak more strongly to you.

Another step for deepening your affirmations is to come up with an example. A real example from your life. This is going to feel tough. You’re going to be resistant to believing that these things are already true.

[pullquote]If you take a minute, breathe, and try to be honest with yourself you will be able to find examples of how you’re already awesome. {Tweet this}[/pullquote]But if you take a minute, breathe, and try to be honest with yourself you will be able to find examples, even if they seem insignificant.

“I argue with people on Facebook like a boss because I am secure in myself and my strong convictions.”

“I am so content with my life that I have really restful sleep.”

It doesn’t matter if the example is really small. Add it in there with the words that mean something to you, and you will find yourself connecting with your positive affirmations.

Your Turn

Have you been working through this series to come up with positive affirmations that work for you? Have you had any successes? Any frustrations with the process? Let us know about it in the comments.

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Read the next post in this series: Supercharge Your Positive Affirmations

Special note: This Positive Affirmation series is a mental health topic. I am writing about it because positive affirmations have been highly useful for me. While I write very forcefully about them, you are the only one in charge of your mental health treatment options. If this isn’t for you, chuck it and move on. Only you know what’s right for you.



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