Get Aggressive With Your Positive Affirmations

Positive Affirmation Series:

  1. Why It’s Okay For You To Use Positive Affirmations
  2. What Are Positive Affirmations?
  3. How To Find Your Personal Positive Affirmations
  4. Add Depth to Your Positive Affirmations
  5. Supercharge Your Positive Affirmations
  6. Get Aggressive With Your Positive Affirmations
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Get Aggressive with Your Positive Affirmations

I hope as you’ve read though this series you’ve taken a minute to start incorporating these ideas into your self-talk. I hope there are more positive thoughts in your head this week than there were last week. I hope you continue to try to convert your negative thoughts into positive affirmations.

What are your obstacles to continuing to do that?


Positive affirmations have a bad rap. The idea sounds all airy and light and woowoo. If the affirmations you’ve come up with sound silly and full of woo, you may be being inauthentic with your words.

If, “I am a peaceful being of light who goes gently into my day,” sounds like a bunch of fuzzy nonsense, then perhaps it isn’t for you.

Perhaps your positive affirmations should sound more like, “Get out of bed, asshole! You’re about to fucking conquer this day like the mad warrior you are. Kick ass, take names! I am a force of nature. Do. not. fuck. with. me.”

The content of the shortest affirmations are nearly universal – “I am confident. I am successful. I am strong and capable.” If you don’t want to say these things to yourself, it may be because of your negative thoughts, and you need to push past this.

But keep working with synonyms like I mentioned in the last post. “Confident” doesn’t speak to me, for example, but “badass” does. I can say “I’m a badass,” all day long and it feels really good.

When you start expanding your thoughts, tread carefully and keep your authenticity at the forefront. Say things that speak to you. Say things that make you feel something.

Habit Building

For me, the other obstacle to keeping up with positive affirmations is remembering to get it done. It’s easy to forget, and then I’m back where I started.

Here’s a process for making sure you stay on track. It involves getting aggressive with recording your thoughts and then making sure you can always see them.

First, every time you have a negative thought, write down a correlating positive thought. Every time. Every. Time. Record the positive affirmation on your phone, write it on a post it note, write it on your hand – whatever you need to do.

I like using post it notes. They help out with the next step, which is to stick those positive affirmations where you can see them. Put them on your mirror. Put them on your walls. Put them on the dashboard of your car. Put them on your desk. Put them in your wallet. Wherever you’re going to be looking, you want to be looking at reminders for positive thoughts you can have about yourself.

You can leave these at the post-it note level of complexity, or you can make the presentation fancy. I have a couple of inspiring phrases that I printed out and framed in thrift store frames to hang on the walls of my bedroom.

The more often you see reminders to say nice things to yourself, the more positive thoughts you will have over time.

What Works?

As I wrap up this series, let me leave you with one more thought.

Remember when we talked about how affirmations are dumb, untrue, and don’t work?

There is one way that your negative self-talk “works” really well. It works to make you feel like shit.

You say negative things over and over, and the result is that they feel even more true, and you feel even more like shit.

Positive affirmations work the same way. They work to make you feel better.

You say them over and over, and they feel more and more true, and you feel better and better.

Have you started using positive affirmations yet? How does it feel?

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Special note: This Positive Affirmation series is a mental health topic. I am writing about it because positive affirmations have been highly useful for me. While I write very forcefully about them, you are the only one in charge of your mental health treatment options. If this isn’t for you, chuck it and move on. Only you know what’s right for you.


Write it. See it.

See it. Read it.

Read it. Say it.

Say it. Hear it.

Hear it. Think it.

Think it. Believe it.

Believe it. Be it.