During a conflict with your child try this thought on for size:
“What my child wants right now is just as important as what I want right now.”
How much resistance do you feel to this idea? What kinds of thoughts does it bring up for you?
As the adult in the relationship your wants and goals are important. You’re keeping your child fed, clean, sheltered, safe, and educated.
As the child in the relationship your kid has some pretty big wants and goals, too. They’re constantly learning and exploring, and figuring out big things like autonomy and the mores of their culture.